adoption constellation parent coaching
a speciality of mine is coaching parents who are members of the adoption constellation. for me, this work is deeply personal which allows me to hold space for you with authenticity. i’ve learned so much through all the bumps and bruises of coming out of the fog, embracing all of my identities, parenting my own children and working professionally in the adoption world. with love and tenderness, i have created a blueprint to help mama's who are struggling to navigate the impact of adoption. i will help you learn to gain confidence in who you are as well as your parenting skills through a deep transformation of self and environment so that you can thrive alongside your child(ren).
a little about my journey…
my first pregnancy came with pulling me ‘out of the fog’ as we say. i began to see the enormous impact adoption trauma had on my life. i started to recognize that having no racial mirrors growing up, no acknowledgement that adoption trauma stems from profound loss, and no understanding about the reality of the adoption industry as a whole, took away my ability to truly connect to my authentic self.
i serendipitously completed my certification in synergetic play therapy at this exact time which equipped me with the tools to walk towards the discomfort and challenges i had avoided up until that point. i learned how to support my nervous system to manage more. i sought out and connected with my adoptee community. i re-connected with my first family in colombia. i learned about the inner workings of my body and mind.
my life was changed. i now understood that no matter what perception we have of challenges we have faced in the past, it is possible to change and become healthier versions of ourselves. i had the tools finally!
i am now working on healing trauma. reclamation of self. identity. culture. and so much more.
adult adoptees, keep reading...
adoptive parents, scroll down to hear more about how i can best support you…
are you an adoptee who is or wants to be a parent?
are you looking at the daunting mountain of adoption trauma in front of you wondering if you’ll ever reach the top…wondering if there even is a top?
for some of us, having our first child meant meeting the first person in our life that we had a biological connection to. others of us were afraid they would not bond with their child or that their child would reject them. or perhaps we may be facing issues that we are linking back to our adoption that trigger feelings of loss, abandonment, and more. are you wanting to figure out HOW to manage what is coming up for you without negatively impacting your child (or future children)? are you working on reclaiming all that was taken from you? are you wanting to equip your second generation adoptee with the tools you may not have had so they can be adoption competent from a young age? are you wanting to make sense of your narrative and understand your limiting thoughts and beliefs? to finally step into your AUTHENTIC SELF? we are not defined by our history. even though sometimes it feels like we’re drowning in it. we are grasping for the ledge to stay afloat. how do we manage our trauma, heal AND be parents? it IS so. much.
but what if i told you it was possible?
what i offer are the building blocks to thrive more often than simply surviving so that you can ground into your authentic self. you will receive support in building a foundation that guarantees your ability to find safety within yourself, offer secure attachment and attunement to your child, all while staying true to yourself.
i’ve put all i’ve learned coming out of the fog as a parent, combined with all i’ve learned professionally to create a tailored offering just for my fellow adoptees. let me help support your journey.
here in solidarity.
*sliding scale available for adoptees only
dear adoptive parent,
parenting is hard, and parenting an adoptee only adds deep, complex layers to an already challenging experience. i have coached adoptive parents who have shared that the experience can feel incredibly overwhelming and often isolating on top of that. i’m glad you’re here.
i’ve got you!
i see how badly you want to do this ‘right’. to support your child in the best way possible. and what i truly understand is the experience of your child. the core of my work with adoptive parents is the opportunity to offer you the guidance my parents never received. so that your child won’t begin to grapple with loss, grief, and identity late in life like myself and many of my adoptee peers have had to. i will equip you with the skills to walk towards all the tough stuff that comes with being an adoptive parent.
adoption is a life-changing event, and it is really important to understand how people are affected throughout their whole life. not just in childhood.
let’s get you supported with commUNITY and with building the strong bonds you know are possible. as an individual, and as a family, from the inside out. and what better place for you to get support than from someone who has been where you child is at, a grown adoptee! and to be very real, though you are not a biological parent you do have the honor of biologically impacting your child’s development. you can parent in a way that supports healing AND builds resilience.
you CAN have the family life you’ve always dreamed of.
“i have numerous traumatic experiences that i have to continually work through. one of them being that i was put up for adoption at birth. i do not hold any negative feelings towards my bio parents and i was adopted into a loving home. but this still means that becoming a mother and having my own child, brought up emotions and questions that were completely unexpected. through jenna’s coaching, i was to learn ways of grounding myself and remembering that i do not have to bring my trauma into the interactions that i have with my child. jenna gave examples of how to recognize what triggers you and how to manage it.”-s.f.
